The excellence of dutifulness shown to the friends of one's father and mother, relatives, wife, and others whom one should honour

Riyad as-Salihin (The Meadows of the Righteous)

by Imam Nawawi

42. Chapter: The excellence of dutifulness shown to the friends of one's father and mother, relatives, wife, and others whom one should honour

341. Ibn 'Umar reported that the Prophet, may Allah bless him and grant him peace, said, "The highest dutifulness is that a man should give to those his father likes."

342. 'Abdullah ibn Dinar reported about 'Abdullah ibn 'Umar is that one of the desert Arabs met him on the road to Makka and 'Abdullah ibn 'Umar greeted him and mounted him on a donkey which he used to ride and gave him a turban which he was wearing. Ibn Dinar said, "We said to him, 'May Allah put you right! They are desert Arabs and they are content with little!' 'Abdullah ibn 'Umar said, 'This one's father had love for 'Umar ibn al-Khattab and I heard the Messenger of Allah, may Allah bless him and grant him peace, say, "The most devout form of devotion is to establish relations with a man who loved one's father?"'"

In one variant from Ibn Dinar from Ibn 'Umar is that when he went out to Makka, he had a donkey on which he would rest when he was weary of riding his camel and his turban was wrapped round his head. When he was on that donkey one day, he passed by a desert Arab and said, "Are you not the son of so-and-so son of so-and-so?" He said, "Yes indeed." So he gave him the donkey and said, "Ride this," and he gave him the turban and said. "Wrap this round your head." One of his companions said to him, "May Allah forgive you! You gave this desert Arab a donkey which you were resting on and a turban which you had wrapped around your head?" He said, "I heard the Messenger of Allah, may Allah bless him and grant him peace, say, 'The most devout form of devotion is to establish relations with a man who loved one's father after his death.' His father was a friend of 'Umar." [Muslim]

343. Abu Usayd Malik ibn Rabi'a as-Sa'idi said, "Once while we were sitting with the Messenger of Allah, may Allah bless him and grant him peace, a man from the Banu Salama came up and asked, 'O Messenger of Allah, is there any devotion to my parents which I can show them after their death?' He said, 'Yes, praying for them, asking forgiveness for them, fulfilling their pledges after them, maintaining ties with relations which are only maintained through them, and honouring any friend of theirs." [Abu Dawud]

344. 'A'isha said, "I was never jealous towards any of the other wives of the Prophet, may Allah bless him and grant him peace, as I was jealous towards Khadija even though I never saw her. However, he used to mention her often. Often when he sacrificed a sheep, he would cut it into pieces and send them to Khadija's friends. I would often say to him, 'It is as if there was only Khadija in the world!' He would say, 'She was as she was and I had children from her.'" [Agreed upon]

In one variant, "If he sacrificed a sheep, he would give enough of it to her friends to suffice them."

In one variant, "When he sacrificed a sheep, he would say, 'Send it to the friends of Khadija.'"

In one variant she said, "Hala bint Khuwaylid, the sister of Khadija, asked permission to come into the Messenger of Allah, and it reminded him of how Khadija had used to ask permission, and that made him very happy so that he said, 'O Allah, Hala bint Khuwalid!'"

345. Anas ibn Malik said, "I went out with Jarir ibn 'Abdullah al-Bajali on a journey and he tried to serve me so I said to him, 'Do not do that.' He said, 'I saw the Ansar do something for the Messenger of Allah and I promised myself that I would not keep the company of any of them without serving him.'" [Agreed upon]