Spending on one's family

Riyad as-Salihin (The Meadows of the Righteous)

by Imam Nawawi

36. Chapter: Spending on one's family

Allah says, "It is the duty of the fathers to feed and clothe them with correctness and courtesy," (W2:230; H2:233)

and the Almighty says, "He who has plenty should spend out from his plenty, but he whose provision is restricted should spend from what Allah has given him. Allah does not demand from any self more than He has given it," (65:7)

and the Almighty says, "But anything you expend will be replaced by Him." (34:39)

289. Abu Hurayra reported that the Messenger of Allah, may Allah bless him and grant him peace, said, "Out of a dinar which you spend in the way of Allah and a dinar which you spend on freeing a slave and a dinar which you give to a poor person and a dinar which you spend on your family, the one with the greatest reward is the one which you spend on your family." [Muslim]

290. Abu 'Abdullah, called Abu 'Abdu'r-Rahman Thawban ibn Bujdad, the client of the Messenger of Allah reported that the Messenger of Allah, may Allah bless him and grant him peace, said, "Is not the best dinar a man spends the dinar which he spends on his family and the dinar which he spends on his mount in the way of Allah and the dinar which he spends on his companions in the way of Allah?" [Muslim]

291. Umm Salama said, "I said, 'Messenger of Allah, will I have a reward if I maintain the sons of Abu Salama when they are my sons? I cannot leave them to go here and there in search of a livelihood' He said, 'Yes, you will have a reward for what you spend on them.'" [Agreed upon]

292. Sa'id ibn Abi Waqqas reported in his long hadith which we put at the beginning of the book in the chapter on intention, is that the Messenger of Allah, may Allah bless him and grant him peace, said to him, "You will be rewarded for whatever you spend on your family desiring by it the Face of Allah, even for the morsel you put in your wife's mouth." [Agreed upon]

293. Abu Mas'ud al-Badri reported is that the Prophet, may Allah bless him and grant him peace, said, "When a man spends on his family and sincerely hopes to be rewarded for it, it is sadaqa for him." [Agreed upon]

294. 'Abdullah ibn 'Amr ibn al-'As reported that the Messenger of Allah, may Allah bless him and grant him peace, said, "It is sin enough for a man that he neglects someone whom he is supposed to feed." [Abu Dawud and others]

Muslim has something of a similar meaning in his Sahih Collection, "It is sin enough for a man to withhold the food of someone he owns."

295. Abu Hurayra reported the Prophet, may Allah bless him and grant him peace, said, "There is no day which dawns on the slaves of Allah without two angels descending and one of them saying, 'O Allah, refund those who give money' and the other saying, 'O Allah, ruin those who withhold it.'" [Agreed upon]

296. Abu Hurayra reported that the Prophet, may Allah bless him and grant him peace, said, "The upper hand is better than the lower hand. Begin with your dependants. The best sadaqa is that given by the wealthy. Anyone who refrains [from asking], Allah will spare him the need to and anyone who seeks to be independent, Allah will give him independence." [al-Bukhari]